Women Get Women

I find this class super fascinating. It has opened to my eyes and allowed me to view the world in a completely different way--one that I never even knew existed! I really enjoyed reading Rich's article, and about the lesbian continuum. I have to agree that women do have more stable and better emotional relationships with other women. I live in a house filled with about 40 other women. I never knew that I would enjoy it as much as I have. I can go to almost any of them, day or night, if I have a problem. And they know that they can come to me. It's so funny to think about my past relationships with ex-boyfriends and how it always seemed that they never "got" me. I always felt misunderstood by them. It was almost like they just couldn't understand me and how I felt about things--who I really was. I'm not a secretive person or anything like that; I tend to just lay myself and how I feel about things out there. But I have never felt more understood and loved than by my sorority sisters (aka- my best friends). They just "get" me, and I don't even need to explain myself or why or how I feel about something to them. They never find me trivial and I never find them trivial. What is it about women that allows them to completely understand other women, even without any explanations? I feel that as women, we know the "struggle." We can understand what each other is going through, in any situation, because we have probably been there too. All women have to go through very similar things in their lives--being teased, being harassed, being judged by others, wanting to be in a romantic relationship, having sex (or wanting to), etc. I think because of that we all have this inner connection with each other that I feel men do not have. This connection allows us to be closer to each other and have more understanding and tolerance for each other. Men don't have that, so we are a mystery to them, and them to us! I honestly feel that life would be better if women could simply just live with each other and have deep, stable emotional relationships with each other, instead of with men. Don't get me wrong, I love men and most of them are great, but I just have always felt like they have never gotten me, or my friends like other women do, and the lesbian continuum is way to describe this inner-connection that all women have with each other (and to what degree).